Mediation: Helping You Stay In Control Of The Divorce Process

At the Law Offices of Donna L. Buttler, LLC, our goals are the same as yours: to make educated decisions, reduce the cost of your legal representation, and minimize the stress and emotions that a divorce can cause. Throughout the course of mediation, you and your spouse will work with a trained attorney to resolve all the issues related to your divorce. You will meet with one of our experienced mediation attorneys in our Farmington Valley office and speak privately in a conversation that will remain confidential.

We will help you and your spouse create a fair, comprehensive agreement. The mediation process provides the structure to discuss the difficult and important issues surrounding your divorce and your family. Together, we will identify your interests and needs and those of your children and develop an agreement that you are both comfortable with.

Your attorney mediator will act as an impartial party, explaining the applicable legal principles that provide a framework for discussing parenting, property distribution and financial support issues. We will create a separation agreement based on your decisions, not the attorneys' or a judge's, and one that will be approved by the court.


"Mediation encourages couples to step out of their marriage in a private, dignified way and enables couples and children to accept and embrace a new definition of family."
- Ann K. Newman

When Should I Choose Mediation?

  • You want what's best for you and your family.
    • In mediation, your children take center stage as you will be making decisions as parents, keeping your children's best interests in mind.
  • You want control over the terms of your settlement.
    • You'll both have control over your settlement because you both will have a direct say in creating its terms. Your agreement will be final only when both parties say it is.
  • You want your agreement to be fair to both you and your spouse.
    • Because the mediator is a neutral third party who doesn't take sides, his or her job is to help you reach an agreement that you both find fair.
  • You want to keep things peaceful.
    • Mediation is a nonadversarial and cooperative process. You don't need to agree on everything or be best friends to mediate your divorce. We will help you negotiate the issues you do not agree on.
  • You want to save money and time.
    • Mediation is less expensive than litigation or collaborative divorce and typically takes significantly less time to complete. You control the cost and the length of the process.
  • You and your spouse are both willing to cooperate and keep your proceedings transparent.
    • Mediation requires full disclosure and transparency to work. You and your spouse must be willing to engage in a good faith negotiation and compromise.

"I advocate for my client’s interest in ways that rebuild family stability and financial strength after a divorce or separation."
- Donna L. Buttler

What's The Next Step?

If you have more questions or are ready to start talking about mediation, call our Connecticut lawyers at 860-404-6134 or contact us online to schedule an initial consultation.